“Why is there water all over the floor? Do you not know how to use a shower curtain? This bright blue thing with fish printed all over it? Did you see all the water on the floor? Were you just waiting for me to come in and clean it up?…”
You know where the conversation goes from here and research shows that this sort of rant usually lasts about seven minutes, thus getting the title The Seven Minute Lecture. I am great at these! Be it room cleaning, homework completing, clean clothes wearing. You name it I got a good ol seven minute lecture that just rolls off the tongue.
So reading yet another parenting book the other day that questioned when have you ever praised your kids for seven minutes? (Stupid book, stop pointing out my shortcomings!)
But it’s true, rarely do I ever say more than a “good job” to the good stuff. But imagine a world where the seven minute lecture applied to the good stuff. “Wow, look at those clean socks you are wearing. You remembered to put on clean socks today! I am so proud of you. You know 82% of the United States Presidents were known to wear clean socks! I bet when you walk around today people will be noticing how confident and collected you are due to the fact that you are wearing clean socks! That is so responsible of you…” Yeah, I could probably do it…at least five minutes.
So this weekend (our school district has a long weekend) take time to try out at least one seven minute Positive lecture. Be prepared for raised eyebrows and skepticism from your kids…at first..followed by some laughs and maybe, just maybe a new passion for wearing clean socks (or whatever your current pet peeve may be).
Let me know how it goes!